Dear Abby:
My husband has received a terminal cancer diagnosis, with doctors giving him approximately one year to live. Before his illness, we enjoyed a social life, regularly dining out with friends once or twice a month. Since his diagnosis, however, we’ve been completely abandoned by these friends. They haven’t contacted us to offer support or inquire about our well-being. I’m left wondering if it’s my responsibility to reach out to them, and I feel profoundly alone in this difficult time. Their silence makes me question whether they care at all. — Invisible in Iowa
Dear Invisible:
My heart goes out to you and your husband. This is a devastating situation, and you absolutely should not have to bear this burden alone. While it’s painful to feel abandoned by friends, their absence may stem from their own anxieties surrounding cancer and mortality, rather than a lack of caring. They may be grappling with their own fears and find it difficult to confront the reality of your husband’s illness.
Reaching out to them is certainly an option. However, if their response remains insufficient, consider seeking support elsewhere. Joining a cancer support group could be incredibly beneficial. You’ll find that you are far from alone in this experience, and connecting with others facing similar challenges can offer invaluable comfort and understanding.